Parent Your Way: Roe Against the Constitution


Today, we’re letting go of safety nets and discussing decision-making – both at home and in the Supreme Court!

It’s really not that complicated.

Now I know none of you or our newsletters care where or if my

son goes to college. But, I also know that many of you may be facing this; or you will have to deal with this one day. Or maybe you have dealt with this. But, our family, over the past two years, has been going through this decision-making process of “if or where my oldest son should go to college.” And we face the dilemma of how best to make those decisions.

Now, I had a mentor a few years ago and he laid out a decision-making tree that was different and simpler than many others I’ve seen. It’s called “The North Star Decision-Making Process,” and it consists of a figurative North Star that guides and directs our decision, or that’s the question we seek to answer. In this particular situation, it’s the question, “If or where should my son go to college?”

Then we basically have boundaries that help create our path to that decision and within those boundaries are viable options, as my son says: my son wants to go into a specific field that requires a college degree. Thus, his field of study corresponds to the professional field in which he wishes to move. And so the fields lead to our Pole Star. If we had a situation where he wanted to work as something that might not require a college degree, that would change our boundaries. Now, if his career track was the only rule we had to follow – if it was the only thing that guided our decision – then any university would fit into our north star process. However, this is not the case.

The field he wants to study often requires very expensive universities – universities that I simply cannot afford. Thus, without significant financial support, many schools are located outside our borders. Then my son said that one of his personal preferences is that he wants to be near the

Beach (I have surfers for the kids).

So, among the many other deciding factors, we have his field of study, his desire to be near the beach, and we have schools we can afford. All of this allows for a wide list of universities for my son to choose from. But it also cancels other opportunities or colleges that are outside of our borders.

It helped us make decisions on where to apply, how to apply for financial aid, and before you know it… VOILA! Dude goes to a college right on the beach, studying whatever he wants to study.

Is this process easy? No. It took a lot of prayers, research, and then a lot of – honestly – divine

financial aid intervention and other delays.

But going through this whole process, we are able to stay very confident and when life gets tough – when classes get tough, when finances seem ridiculous – we can say, “We went through this process; and we could see where things are pointing; and we can be sure that my son is in the right college.

I bring all of this up to discuss another story that has been making headlines more than a little in recent days – the decision the Supreme Court had before it regarding Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization. For those of you who don’t know, the Dobbs case challenged Roe v. Wade and Casey v. Planned Parenthood, asking “Should abortion be a nationwide federal mandate or should it be something each state should regulate on its own?”

Well, we have the North Star question: what should we do about Roe v Wade? And we have

certain limitations that helped guide the SCOTUS decision. The one border that means more than anything is the Constitution. This is the global limit. This is what the Supreme Court really had to consider and base its decision on.

Now a lot of people say, “But what about the fact that Roe v Wade has been the ‘law of the land’ for almost 50 years?” What about past decisions that have been based on Roe’s premise? We can’t get rid of all that. »

Can’t we?

Well, what the Supreme Court looked at was whether or not the 1973 Roe decision was actually based on the Constitution. And therefore, everything else would flow from there. The SCOTUS determined: No. This was not the case.

Roe was a bad decision. It was a bad decision in its original state.

Even Ruth Bader Ginsburg, before her death, said she wishes there was a better way to advocate for abortion because Roe is on shaky ground.

Therefore, the SCOTUS said returning him to the United States – just as it had been for most of America’s history – is the right move.

Does this make abortion illegal nationwide? No. Does it make abortion “the law of the land”? Well, honestly, it was never “the LAW of the land”.

And that brings me to something completely different. It’s something I learned as a little kid in the 1970s – it’s the three-ring circus that is our federal government. In our “circus with three rings”, we have the executive power, the legislative power and the judicial power. All three of them have checks and balances. Each of them has separate but equal powers. Each of them has a role in our lives as a nation. And then, any power that does not apply to these three branches belongs to the state and local governments.

The reason I said Roe was never the “law of the land” was because it was a Supreme Court decision. Not a law.

A law can only be brought before the legislature, then signed and executed by the executive, then if brought before them, reviewed by the judiciary to determine whether the law is constitutional or not.

This is how our Constitution works.

When you hear people screaming about how terrible this moment in our nation’s history is, they completely forget about this three-ring Schoolhouse Rock circus about how our Constitution is supposed to work. When we look at the various decisions that the Supreme Court is supposed to make, each should respect the Constitution as it stands.

The harsh truth is that there is nothing in the Constitution that guarantees the right to abortion.

Now, there are certain rights that ARE specifically guaranteed by our Constitution and its amendments. And that’s where I think people have to shake things up, if they’re really as passionate as they seem. If they really think abortion should be the law of the land,

make it the law of the land. Go through the legislative process. Have it signed or passed by our legislature. Then send it to the executive and ask the president to deal with it. Then it can be sent back to the judiciary and they will determine if it fits in the Constitution. If it

done, it becomes the law of the land. Until then, just as the SCOTUS just did, it will be referred to each of the individual states. And they can decide in each state what to do with this dilemma and how to answer the North Star question of whether or not abortion should be allowed.

Is this example oversimplified? Yes of course. But when you oversimplify things, it makes some things much easier to understand – at least for my simple brain.

I’ve said it many times when I look at what guides me in my life decisions. What I’m trying to do is keep a Bible verse in mind. Just one. And I’m like, “Okay, my God, what do you want me to do?” It’s a big world with a big load of decisions. What do you want me to do?” And then I remember Micah 6:8.

The Lord has told you what is good,

and this is what He requires of you:

do what is right, love mercy,

and walk humbly with your God.

Now, I know some of you say, “Oh, there you go with your Bible stuff. Christianity has no place in our government, and we’re supposed to have a separation of church and state…” Okay, so you take whatever principle guides your life and apply it. to your North Star process, knowing that we have our Constitution. We also have a three ring circus; and let’s see what wins.

But, for now, I’m just saying, STOP HITTING ANGER.

And, instead, try my way of life – just for a bit – to love mercy, live with justice, and walk humbly. And then maybe, just maybe, you might see positive, life-giving results.

Hopefully this will spark some healthy conversations – no yelling or shouting…no whining or false assumptions about what the Constitution says or doesn’t say. Nor what the law should be, or what you want. Because all these things are outside the borders of the North Star. I don’t care what you want. I don’t care what the story was. The judges didn’t care about any of these different things. He simply looked at what the Constitution says, and then within that framework, how the decision-making process works.

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